Turning 21: A Rite That Doesn't Have to Go Wrong
Will your student turn 21 in 2008? If so, consider having some proactive conversations about birthday celebrations.

• Many 21st birthdays include "21 shots" of alcohol. This is extremely dangerous and has lead to alcohol poisoning and death in some instances.
• Friends and acquaintances may have ideas about how they think your student "should" spend a 21st birthday (i.e. going out, getting drunk, etc.). However, he knows himself best and it's all about what he want to do! Encourage him not to be swayed into doing something that's uncomfortable.
• A 21st birthday is a great opportunity to do something memorable! Being compromised by alcohol takes away those memories.
• No matter how your student chooses to celebrate, encourage her to be with people she really trusts. This is the key to safety and having a good time.

A non-judgmental conversation that begins with "So, what are you thinking about for your 21st birthday?" can lead to some positive, thought-provoking planning. As a result, your student is less likely to fall into the "I'm going to go drink myself silly" cliché and to really think about a memorable way to mark this milestone.